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¤1¥1What  should  I  do to make (the first
attempt in) vaginal sex easiest?
 
¤9FOR THE VIRGIN FEMALE:
 
¤11)  Do  it  in a place where she feels
    safe, ideally in her own  bedroom.   

¤22)  Do  it  at  a  secure  time,  when   
    roommates or  parents  won't  come
    barging   in,   a   firedrill   is 
    unlikely,  etc.

¤13)  Simulate it in advance:
     a.  Go   almost  all   the   way.
     b.  Practice    the     thrusting
         motions  of  sex  while fully
         clothed.
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     c.  Have  her  give  you a  "hand
         job"  so  that  she will know
         what  your body does when you
         have an orgasm.
     d.  Have  a  bright lights  "show
         and  tell"  session, to allow
         you   to  feel  secure around
         each  other's  naked  bodies.  

¤24)  Plan  it,  but  don't  talk  about  
    it being planned,  on  the  actual  
    day  that  you do it.  

¤15)  Stretch  the vagina out a lot with 
    the  fingers  in  advance.  If she  
    feels  comfortable  with the idea, 
    she can even do this herself  when  
    you're not around.

¤26)  Remember  that   it  is  her  day-
    everything, within reason,  should 
    be done how she wants.  

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¤17)  Spend the day with her beforehand; 
    do  something  fun  but generic if  
    you  do  something complicated, it 
    will become  "your"  thing  to  do  
    together  forever,   due  to   the 
    association,  so  make  sure  it's 
    something  you  can  stand   doing 
    again     on     any     potential 
    anniversaries.  

¤28)  Have  a  special dinner before you 
    "start."
     a.   Nothing  that  can  possibly
          upset the stomach.
     b.   A  moderate  amount, even if
          you're nervous.   You should
          both  stay  a  little hungry
          and  not  feel bloated.  

¤19)  Entry   should   be   "missionary" 
    style, this  leaves the  vagina as  
    wide  open as possible. Some women 
    find that placing a  pillow  under
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    the buttocks enhances this effect, 
    others have said it doesn't 
    matter.  

¤210) If  she can do it, she may be best 
    off to   do   the   actual   entry 
    herself,   but  many  women  would
    rather not.   

¤111) There's  no  point  in  getting it 
    over  with  right  away,  since it  
    will  only hurt the next time, but 
    there is  also  no need to draw it 
    out.  I'd  say  10-30 minutes is a 
    good  range,  but  it  is actually
    going  to  vary a lot depending on
    the particular couple involved.   

¤212) Take forever, if necessary, before 
    putting it in. Only when the woman 
    is  really  ready  should  this be 
    done.   I'd   recommend     asking 
    verbally,  and  then  interpreting 
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    that  to  see  if she really means 
    it's time.  

¤113) Stay  with  her  afterwards. Spend 
    the  night, at  least.If possible, 
    take   her   to    do    something 
    spontaneous the next day.  Discuss 
    what  happened  if  she  wants to, 
    many  women  won't  want to  until 
    some later time.  

¤214) Encourage  her  to  talk  to other 
    women  ahead  of  time   to   give
    her  some  idea of what to expect.
    The unknown means fear, fear leads  
    to  tension,   tension   lead   to 
    difficulty     relaxing,       and 
    difficulty relaxing leads to pain.   

¤115) A  useful  technique, for guys who 
    can  do  this,  is  to  keep   the
    erection   soft,   at  a  sort  of
    middling  state, and then push the 
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    penis   in  with  a  finger.  Then
    slowly   let   it   harden.   This
    will  produce a  stretching rather
    than  a  sudden   opening  of  the  
    vagina. If you can't do this, then 
    at least go in slowly and  gently, 
    "getting it over with fast" is not 
    likely to be better.   

¤216) Be more or less "in love." This is  
    something you can't just decide to 
    do,  but it can help to wait until 
    you love each other.
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